Social skills: noticing when repetition is communication

realsocialskills:

So there’s this dynamic:

Autistic person: The door is open!

Other person: I *know* that. It’s hot in here.

Autistic person: The door is open!

Other person: I already explained to you that it’s hot in here!

Autistic person: The door is open!

Other person: Why do you…

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My mother once told me that trauma is like Lord of the Rings. You go through this crazy, life-altering thing that almost kills you (like say having to drop the one ring into Mount Doom), and that thing by definition cannot possibly be understood by someone who hasn’t gone through it. They can sympathize sure, but they’ll never really know, and more than likely they’ll expect you to move on from the thing fairly quickly. And they can’t be blamed, people are just like that, but that’s not how it works.

Some lucky people are like Sam. They can go straight home, get married, have a whole bunch of curly headed Hobbit babies and pick up their gardening right where they left off, content to forget the whole thing and live out their days in peace. Lots of people however, are like Frodo, and they don’t come home the same person they were when they left, and everything is more horrible and more hard then it ever was before. The old wounds sting and the ghost of the weight of the one ring still weighs heavy on their minds, and they don’t fit in at home anymore, so they get on boats go sailing away to the Undying West to look for the sort of peace that can only come from within. Frodos can’t cope, and most of us are Frodos when we start out.

But if we move past the urge to hide or lash out, my mother always told me, we can become Pippin and Merry. They never ignored what had happened to them, but they were malleable and receptive to change. They became civic leaders and great storytellers; they we able to turn all that fear and anger and grief into narratives that others could delight in and learn from, and they used the skills they had learned in battle to protect their homeland. They were fortified by what had happened to them, they wore it like armor and used it to their advantage.

It is our trauma that turns us into guardians, my mother told me, it is suffering that strengthens our skin and softens our hearts, and if we learn to live with the ghosts of what had been done to us, we just may be able to save others from the same fate.

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S.T.Gibson  (via modernhepburn)

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nellachronism:

yoyomarules:

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I straight up can’t even begin to talk about how much I love this show and this character. ALL the characters. But especially this one.

I don’t know if it’s fair for me as a straight white lady to say I wanna be him, but I kinda do.

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queenfattyoftherollpalace:

halaalpussy:

wifigirl2080:

frankcoffee:

tumblr’s favourites as some of dc’s finest. 

wonder woman (diana prince) → gina torres 
powergirl (karen starr) 
→ nicki minaj
zatanna (zatanna zatara) 
→ lucy liu 
black canary (dinah lance) 
→ beyoncé
big barda (barda free) 
→ laverne cox

someone said gina torres for diana and i stood up and shrieked and needed to immediately do a revised dreamcast. it was just Too Good. how did it not occur to me sooner???

eta: i know it’s like way late, but for people asking about laverne, i’m kinda feeling this casting?? yye

Is this not completely perfect???

Beyonce as black canary would be the death of me

yesssssssssssss lucy as zatanna, I feel it 

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swordofomens:

otatma:

voidbat:

::wriggles happily::

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I am thinking of doing something like this in October with like pink and purple and stuff.

king-satan-senpai:

lifehackable:

Stretches that improve different aspects of your body.

i hate lower pain pain. bless this.

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soundingonlyatnightasyousleep:

Hannibal is a gothic horror show about control, perception, abuse, mental illness and disability, the institution of psychiatry, and vengeance, frequently featuring terrifying scenes of violence and gore

and the fandom is comprised of teenage girls bedecking everyone in flowers and making cheesy puns

is this the actual reverse of the brony fandom

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http://elucreh.tumblr.com/post/92131552165/pimpunderthemountain-cockleshells-okay-so

pimpunderthemountain:

cockleshells:

Okay so imagine the villain has captured a girl the protagonist cares about and is all like “I’ll kill her unless you give me the macguffin!”

And the hero’s like “that will never happen! I love her and she loves me! Right?”

And the girl’s like…